By Anthony Woollacott at November 10 2018 13:56:29
Desperate to get your ex back? Can you think of nothing else? Perhaps that is the problem! Perhaps you are obsessed with the thought of getting your ex back. Perhaps you can think of nothing else. Perhaps your ex even senses your desperation! You see, if you want to get your ex back, you must understand the powerful psychology at work here. You must understand what is called applied psychology (or reverse psychology).
It is a good idea to choose a champion for each tool who will master its use. Assign owners to processes Choose a person with leadership skills and the appropriate level of responsibility and influence and make him/her accountable for continuous improvement of the process. Give him/her a clear objective to achieve and an incentive to reach the goal. Encourage feedback for process improvement To ensure that the flow of information between executors and the process owner is fluid, encourage people to contribute to process enhancement through incentives. Use your imagination to reward contributors (consider not only monetary incentives).
Perhaps you feel some shyness. That is understandable. According to shyness researchers, more than 80% of those surveyed have said that they have felt shy at some point in their lives, and 40% label them selves as currently shy! So to win your ex back, you must overcome some shyness. You must re-master the art of conversation. You must get out there and meet new people and become more popular. But if you flex and work out your social muscles, you will definitely strengthen them!
You do this by appearing to be desperate. This is the worst thing you can do! This highlights another important psychological fact. As author Vernon Howard once wrote, "whenever one knows that you desperately want something he [or she] tends to withhold it, Ford gives them a very satisfying sense of power over you. He knows as long as he keeps you at bay that you will continue to seek him out. That gives them a great sense of self-importance that he won't easily give up." So the most important step you must take to win your ex back is simple -- but it may seem contradictory at first. That is, to win your ex back you must get out there and meet other people! This will send a powerful message that you are not dependent on any one person. By increasing your popularity you will send the psychological message that you have something going for you, otherwise you wouldn't be so popular!