By Elizabeth Spain at November 01 2018 10:14:23
Understanding applied psychology is the most important aspect of your magic power to persuade and command people, for you really do have a magic power if you will merely understand how it works! What is the applied psychology here? It is that the last thing you want to do is to appear to be desperate! This will inevitably communicate itself to your ex. You will call too much. You will desperately seek them out. You may show up in the same places you know they frequent. Bad move!
In the Tell 'n' Show method of creating effective presentations, you tell you point, then you show it. So, each point requires some validation, some evidence. Which validation you choose may depend on your audience. Some people want hard data, others want to know what the competition is doing, and still others may want the advice of an expert. A story that conveys a poignant situation may be effective. Sometimes, all you need is an image to show what you're telling. If you say that the copier you sell fits on a small table, a photograph will suffice.
You do this by appearing to be desperate. This is the worst thing you can do! This highlights another important psychological fact. As author Vernon Howard once wrote, "whenever one knows that you desperately want something he [or she] tends to withhold it, Ford gives them a very satisfying sense of power over you. He knows as long as he keeps you at bay that you will continue to seek him out. That gives them a great sense of self-importance that he won't easily give up." So the most important step you must take to win your ex back is simple -- but it may seem contradictory at first. That is, to win your ex back you must get out there and meet other people! This will send a powerful message that you are not dependent on any one person. By increasing your popularity you will send the psychological message that you have something going for you, otherwise you wouldn't be so popular!
It is a good idea to choose a champion for each tool who will master its use. Assign owners to processes Choose a person with leadership skills and the appropriate level of responsibility and influence and make him/her accountable for continuous improvement of the process. Give him/her a clear objective to achieve and an incentive to reach the goal. Encourage feedback for process improvement To ensure that the flow of information between executors and the process owner is fluid, encourage people to contribute to process enhancement through incentives. Use your imagination to reward contributors (consider not only monetary incentives).